It’s time for a new About Me.  Lots of stuff has changed since Hespera’s Garden bloomed.

My name is Kristie.  I am 30-something. I am a woman, a wife, a mother, a friend, a daughter, a sister.  And I’m a (fairy-)god-mother.  My Daughter – The Divine Miss T – is 5 and is half way through her first year of Big School.  Though, she will always be my baby.  I have been married for 3+ years. We forgot our Wedding Anniversary last year.   I’ve suffered secondary infertility due to PCOS.  It took 3.5 years to successfully fall pregnant after Miss T.  I love that I am a woman.  I love chocolate and bunnies (and chocolate bunnies!) and cuddles stolen at 4am in the morning by my big girl. I talk in circles sometimes. I use far too many ellipses… sometimes swear. And I make spelling mistakes.

On July 14 2011, my son Avery came into this world stillborn.  He was full term.  He is missed.  A lot of Hespera’s Garden is about finding a new balance, a new Every Day and navigating this together with my family (and my friends). There is a lot of raw stuff that happens here.  And I don’t apologise for it – much.

I don’t talk about my hubby at his request, so if this blog seems a little one sided – it is.  I rabbit on about crap often, and speak my mind – as foggy as that is.  I’ll try and be interesting, but I’ve got no guarantees.


Tuesday 22 February 2011 - 7:38 pm

Hi there,

Love your blog. Just wodnering if you’d like to feature over at Blog This as a new Member Monday feature? Please let me know if you’d like to and I’ll send you on the questions and details.

Kindest wishes
Kim (Blog This staffer)

Friday 19 August 2011 - 11:15 pm

Good morning!

I just wanted you to know how much I enjoy your blog…and how much my heart aches for you. I feel like I know you yet we’ve never met. So it seemed only fair to say hello…

I look forward to reading your posts because they are so real & remind me that no, life isn’t always perfect or fair, so it’s ok if me & my life aren’t always perfect.

Blessings to you & your family!

Sunday 18 September 2011 - 7:31 pm

Hi Kristie,

Stumbled onto your blog I am not sure how. So, so sorry to read about the loss of your little boy Avery. He was so beautiful. Take care.

Elaine (Nanowrimo)
Friday 28 October 2011 - 9:41 pm

Hi Kristie,
I have been catching up on your blog tonight – it was so moving to read about Avery’s funeral from your viewpoint. I have to say I think you’re an AMAZING writer – you get across what you’re feeling so keenly.

I will drop you a line about the third week Nov. when I’ve got my calendar out but for now..I am looking forward to reading more of what you write (and bugging you to write, haha I mean encouraging!)

Tuesday 3 April 2012 - 10:01 pm

I just found your blog as a friend who was at the DPC told me about your speech. I am so very, very sorry. Avery is a beautiful boy. I will be following your blog from here on in.
From one stillbirth mum to another, my heart really goes out to you.

Monday 23 April 2012 - 11:20 pm

Hi Kristie!

I have something I would like to send to you so I was wondering if you have a postal address I could use? I understand if you don’t want to give a stranger your address, maybe a friend has a PO Box or something (if you don’t have one yourself). It is just something small but it made me think of you and I wanted you to have it.

I know you are having a tough time and I think of you often. Not that that helps much…


PS You can email me at the email address I listed above

Friday 9 November 2012 - 10:24 am

Hello Kristie,

I just wanted to let you know that the article about you and Avery at the Digital Photography School (about your experience with Heartfelt) deeply touched me. I came here to your blog and read more, and suddenly l knew what l wanted to do with my photography. I’ve been studying all of this year and have almost completed my course, and a while ago l applied to Heartfelt and was accepted as a photographer. Yesterday was my first session. l will never, ever forget it. I was so scared of doing or saying the wrong thing, but also surprised that instinct kicked in and l somehow knew what to do. The photos are both heartbreaking and beautiful, l can only hope that they mean something to the parents in years to come. I was so honoured to be allowed into their lives at such a private and painful time.

Thankyou so much for allowing your family’s story to be shared, l’m sure it has touched so many people. I think of you and Avery often, and coming here today to see that you are expecting is lovely to hear. My very best wishes for a safe and healthy pregnancy. xxx

Sunday 30 June 2013 - 9:18 am

Hi Kristie,
I just wanted to say that I think you have a beautiful way with words. I have just discovered your blog, courtesy of Kate Says Stuff. Your blog is a beautiful celebration of your family and the love you have for ALL of your children. My heart aches for you – the pain of losing your child is impossible to imagine. Just wanted to say congratulations on this blog. I’ll be following you.
Best wishes,
Michaela from Not another slippery dip.

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